The Rite of Marriage - Part II

Marriage in the Church has both a social and religious dimension. The religious is reflected in the actual Rite of Marriage. The social is reflected in ‘local customs’ that may have been incorporated into the Rite but which are not essential to it. 

The choices made for the liturgy, reflecting the couple’s personal preferences, are always in keeping with the nature of the sacrament and the Church’s tradition.

Choices

A couple strengthens and nourishes their faith through the informed decisions they make about their wedding liturgy. Choice of flowers, dresses, cars and photographers help make the wedding day special but care must be taken that their emphasis does not overshadow the importance of the Sacrament being celebrated. 

Nor should celebration of the Sacrament be taken out of the couple’s reach because of the costs of these extras. Careful marriage preparation with the celebrant will ensure the choices made are appropriate.

Readings & Prayers

The careful selection of readings and prayers, reflecting the meaning of marriage, and of music is important, as this will enhance the liturgy. 

The Rite offers couples a rich collection of readings and prayers from which to choose. Music that is liturgically and pastorally appropriate for a Sunday liturgy is also appropriate for use within the Rite of Marriage as its foundation is in the Eucharistic celebration. 

Popular, or secular, music is generally best left for the wedding reception as its inclusion in the liturgy may undermine its religious nature. 

The liturgy is further enhanced by selecting  well-formed Ministers of the Word (or Lectors) and Ministers of the Eucharist to assist with the readings, Prayers of the Faithful, and distribution of Communion. 

Symbols 

(Social customs)

The wedding liturgy’s natural symbols, such as the blessing and exchange of rings, are often augmented via the introduction of social customs. One such popular custom is the lighting of candles by the couple and their parents. 

Particular cultural customs, such as the binding together of the couple’s hands, may also be introduced. The symbolic meaning of any introduced custom into the Rite’s essential structure needs to be carefully considered to make certain that it does not supplant the natural symbols of the liturgy.

This article was originally published in  ‘Vocations & Ministry.  ©  Diocese of Parramatta.  2005, 2007. Reprinted with permission.

‍Image Attribution - Placing a wedding ring, Petar Milošević